How Do You Get Love Right?

How Do You Get Love Right?


Bible Passage: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Preacher: Lois Taviner

Series: Stand Alone

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How Do You Get Love Right?

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

So Valentine’s Day was a couple of weeks ago, and here we are talking about love… again. But this time we’re talking about the kind of love that, for many people, isn’t as sweet as they portray it to be in the Disney movies! Let’s call it ‘Unhealthy Love’. Unhealthy Love is manifesting itself in an epidemic that’s affecting millions of people in the UK, and around the world too, that are experiencing domestic abuse.

It’s often difficult to identify what unhealthy love looks like in people or in relationships. Unhealthy Love can be identified by the 3 I’s… Unhealthy Love isolates, intimidates and invalidates. And that’s not how love should be. That is not healthy love.

Thankfully, The Bible has given us a manual for how to get love right. (It’s almost like God knew that we’re human, we make mistakes and we need a clear reminder of how to get love right)

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells us:

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

That is healthy love. That is how we get love right. That is the standard of love that you deserve, nothing less.

Can I encourage you to take a Relationship Health Check?

  • If you’re single, consider the kind of spouse you’re searching for and see if they align with the healthy love we see above.
  • Perhaps you’re dating, can you see any red flags of unhealthy love in the person?
  • If you’re married, how do you and your spouse measure up on the ‘Healthy Love’ front?

Healthy Love is always hopeful. Unhealthy Love is always harmful, and if you’ve experienced or are recognising that you are being harmed, emotionally, physically or otherwise. Please speak to someone and get help. Domestic Abuse and Unhealthy Love hurt the heart of our loving God. He does not want you to experience or endure it.

If you recognise the signs of Unhealthy Love in your own relationship or if you are experiencing domestic abuse we urge you to speak to someone. Visit our help and support page for organisations that will help you!

If you’re passionate about standing up against Domestic Abuse, would you join me in saying this prayer?

Dear God, Thankyou that you’re love is perfect, forgiving, patient and kind. We pray that you would teach us to get love right. God, for those experiencing Unhealthy Love, please would you give them the courage to get help and find freedom. Bring justice to abusers and oppressors. Please God, transform our society by putting an end to domestic abuse and showing us all how to get love right. Amen.


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